A goal that triggers either a few or all of the following emotions?
Most of us are playing it safe. Playing it safe on a daily basis!
We don't want to upset our boss, the status quo or our partner. We get up in the morning to do the same old stuff, bored and listless. We point our fingers at our partners, the economy or someone/something else instead of stepping up and changing the current situation ourselves.
Seth Goddin, the author of 'Tribes - We Need You To Lead Us', reckons that 'if you're not uncomfortable in your work as a leader, it's almost certain you're not reaching your potential as a leader'.
So what makes us shy away from reaching our potential?
Lack of courage or the fear of shame or a combination of both.
Putting our own ideas/products out there is a scary process and makes us vulnerable to people's criticisms. If you want to live up to your true potential you should however not ask the question 'how can I avoid mistakes or feeling ridiculed'?
Instead you should put your focus on becoming more 'shame resilient'*. Because guess what, if you are going after what you want you WILL fail. It's not a question of if but of when. It's a guarantee.
So if you're bored in your job or in what you're doing set yourself one courageous goal a day going forward. Think of something (small or big) that would take courage for you to do today and go out and do it!
* In my next blog post I'll be writing more about 'shame resilience' as developed by researcher and author Brené Brown in 2006. Her books include 'Daring Greatly' and 'I thought it was just me'.