'To the outside it might look as if I've got it all. The career, the family, the friends but internally I sometimes still feel like an utter failure.'
Are you putting up a happy face to the world too? The face of the fully contented stay-at-home mum? The face of the having-it-all working mum? The face of the highly successful career woman? Do you keep comparing yourself to others? Is what you do & have never good enough? Do you keep thinking that you will be happy when... you get rich, famous, slim, be in a relationship, own a house, get your business off the ground?
If yes, then you are not alone. In his new book 'Positive Intelligence' Shirzad Chamine actually claims that most if not all people are privately tortured by their own saboteurs.
To find out more I've decided to take his free saboteur assessment and to identify my own key saboteurs. Of course I knew I had the tendency to compare myself to others (the judge) and to delay or try and ignore important issues - they might go away all by themselves - (the avoider) but to see it black & white in front of me was still an eye opener.
And so instead of listening to my 'judge's' comments whilst writing this blog post I'm giving these thoughts a new label. Instead of thinking 'you should not share personal stories - people will see you as weak' I am telling myself that the judge is claiming I should not share personal stories. I'm starting to label him - the very first step to weaking my saboteurs.
To your happiness,