The issue with relationships is that there are two opposing forces at play at all times.
That sooner or later you will have done enough of the compromising and you feel like it's time for ME again. Or you both have gone down the individuality path that much that there is not much left that can be called a relationship.
Now when your relationship is no longer working you usually have three options:
1. You run as fast as you can.
2. You distance yourself emotionally from your partner and show a 'happy front' happily ever after.
3. You pay attention to what is going on in your relationship and try to rebalance either or both of the two forces once more within you.
This is what David Schnarch calls the 'crucible' effect in marriages or long-term relationships.
A crucible is a container that can withhold very high temperatures in order to bring two different metals together.
Needless to say that Option 3 is not easy - it will require you to grow in the most dramatic ways - but I'm glad I came across this option not just in David Schnarch's but also in Eva-Maria Zurhorst's books. This third option actually works so well that it will make our relationships better, more passionate and much more fulfilling.
I say yes to that.